I had to pierce a little boys ears today (as soon as I got there and clocked in and did a drawer count)!
Well to make this story as short as possible!
The little boy did not want this done!
He was kicking and screaming and slobbering EVERYWHERE!
He was even gaging so bad that I thought he was going to throw up!
I know how sad is that?
Well when I asked him if he wanted daddy to come hold his hand ... mom didn't like that and I told her that if he kept doing as he was that I would not be able to pierce his ears becasue it could go in crooked, too high, too low, etc. .... so mom called in the oldest child (a girl about 13) and I thought maybe to help distract him ... but oh was so WRONG!
Mom brought her in to pin him down (more than she already was ... which I didn't think was possible) Mom had already had her legs pinning him down and her arms strapping him down!
Well the daughter held his arms!
While mom held his head and legs ... which he still was kicking the crap out of me!
So she was not doing to well!
So I did the piercing but I was so sick to my stoamch at the way mom didn't seem to care that this little 4 year old was upset and didn't want his ears pierced ... yea, he didn't get one ... he got both!
So I was so sick to my stomach that I cared more for his well being than the mom did!
All she want was his ears pierced and that was that!
Maybe I shouldn't judge how people treat their kids considering I don't have any ... but darn it!
If my child does not want their ears done then OH WELL!
Am I wrong for being this way?
19 comments:
Oh my gosh, I couldn't do that to my child, I think parents should wait until their child is old enough to decide if they want to be peirced or not. As far as the judging thing I do that to, I did it before I became a stepmother, I don't think it's wrong, at least you were taking the child into consideration, the mother certainly didn't seem too!
My son was 10 when we pierced not both but one...and it was his choice. I encouraged it though, but I couldnt do what that woman did.
Ellen
http://journals.aol.com/eml625/Onedayatatime
Hello,
Thank you for your comment in my journal. :o) How sad is this story. I think the stores should make a rule that if the child is plainly saying no that you should not have to do it. Poor lil baby. I feel bad for you that you had to go through that. Some people are just not right. You are not wrong on this entry. :o)
~Angela
that was so wrong, no way should she had forced that child to get his ears pierced.
No, you're not wrong for feeling that way. I think that's so mean that she put her wishes over his. I would have refused to do it, but I'm a rebel ;) LOL
Love Sam xXx
http://journals.aol.co.uk/misscarberry/NoLongerSweetSixteen
NO...if anyone was wrong it was the mother. I've wanted to get my daughter's ears peiced since she was a baby...but, her father thought under a year was too young. So, i waited. Now I want to get them done since she's 5 now...but, she doesn't want her ears pierced...so, I guess it will just happen when she's ready for it...But, I would never force her or my son to have something like that done they don't want done.
~Tina
No, you are absolutely right! I can't imagine a parent insisting a child get their ears pierced. I know it'd be hard to do at your age, but as a 45 year old mother of two, I'd have flat refused to do it. - BArbara
How sad is that? You are so right! I have a little boy and if he didn't want his ears pierced then so be it, he won't have them done! That mother is a poor excuse for a mommy! That gets to me bad!
Vicky
That's just horrible. How could a mother see that her child doesn't want it done and do it anyway? And a boy even. I have a boy and if he didn't want them pierced, I wouldn't force him to. Something is wrong with that mother. Don't think you are wrong for feeling the way you do. Some parents are just soooo stupid. Talk to you later.
Kim
http://journals.aol.com/blackcatfever620/KimsPlace
No you're not wrong. Besides me not being "for" boys having their ears pierced, but when a child so strongly protests and yes 4yr olds most definately KNOW what they do and don't want...that's wrong.
I'd have refused. I know it's not always that simple, but what that mother did was wrong and plain disgusting to put her child's interest so low.
Christy http://journals.aol.com/my3gifts/TalesfromtheFrontandtheonesleftB/
You'll find no disagreements here. The parents should never force their child to get something electic done against the child's will. I can certainly see struggling and fighting with a kid to get in immunization done, scary but for the child's benefit. Ear piercing serves absolutely no actual function at all. This is something that SHOULD be left up to the child, when he or she is old enough. I have 4 kids total and out of the 4, 1 has elected to pierce all sorts of things, (she's has navel, ears, eyebrow, etc done, and the other 3 nothing, all their own choice).
Just curious... What would have been the consequences from your employer if you had simply refused to pierce and unwilling minor?
Thank you for your kind comment in my journal. Wow. In my humble opinion that parent was abusive. I agree with you. If *MY* child didn't want his/her ears pierced - no way would I do it. It's good to hear someone cared about that poor child.
Best Wishes,
Dianna
You're not wrong at all. That's awful that she forced him. Too bad you had to do it. :)
No, your absolutely not wrong! There should be a law against that! GBU, Shelly
In my opinion this is child was being abused. This "mom" took it upon herself to decide that her little tarzan was going to look the part and didn't care at all how it was traumatizing him. Seriously, he will never trust her. How sad.
But you're right, who are we to judge. You poor girl. You had to be the one to inflict this pain on him, when it was his mother who was actually doing it to him! UGH! Thanks for stopping by my journal! Michelle
You weren't wrong and I understand your point but I think I would have lost my job when I asked that lady WTH her problem was. I mean let the kid go. I grew up in an abusive family and I would have been more apt to reach out anf smach her then to perice that childs ears but then thats just me.
Diane
Wow...sticky situation. Glad it wasn't me, I wouldnt have done it and I would have given the Mom a piece of my mind and lost my job.
I really can't believe there are parents like that!! (I know, I know! I'm naive beyond belief!) I know it's not right to judge people, but if there's any justice in this world, that old bag will someday be dragged kicking and screaming to a dumpy nursing home and that son will be the one doing the dragging!
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